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At the playground – you know?
That’s where he saw this cutie … (music group ABC/ BBD)

Well, she was alright looking at most, but my 4-year-old was enamored with this little brown-skinned girl – easily a couple years older than him – wearing red rimmed glasses and two bobbled pony tails swinging down her back.

My son ‘flirts’ with little girls on occasion, but not often. He’s sorta bashful – but not really shy. He gathered the nerve to approach this girl, but then stood next to her awkwardly.

He muttered something about playing and she lashed out abruptly – GET AWAY FROM ME!

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Tip: My 9y.o. Son Pees in the Bed!

A 9- year- old boy kept peeing in the bed during his sleep.
He’s academically advanced, sports inclined and all-around healthy. But, he couldn’t seem to help this behavior. His mom was frustrated. She was concerned. She called the pediatrician and this is what he said:

Tell him to stand at the toilet for 30 more seconds. (What?)
He should stand at the toilet for 30 more seconds after he ‘finishes’ peeing.

“I thought it was strange when he would go pee and come back in less than 2 minutes,” his mom said. Turns out he wasn’t fully emptying his bladder. After he tried lingering at the toilet for 30 seconds, he stopped peeing in the bed.

He still pees in the bed occasionally, because sometimes he forgets.
But, the incidents have decreased dramatically.

Do you have a tip or a concern that you want to share? Email me and let me know!

Should Boys’ Grades Suffer Due to Their Behavior in School?

My son is in kindergarten. He’s smart but sometimes he has a problem staying in his seat …and standing in line …and not talking. He’s not the only one. My husband and I worked with him at home, and he’s improved. So have his ‘report card grades.’ Even though, I feel his school work performance remains the same. And I’m concerned. 

This article gives documentation to my concern. It’s extremely relative and important to read, share, and discuss. Is your son’s physical behavior at school negatively impacting his academic grade? boys in the back

The Boys at the Back by Christina Hoff Summers – NYTimes.com

Boys score as well as or better than girls on most standardized tests, yet they are far less likely to get good grades, take advanced classes or attend college. Why? A study coming out this week in The Journal of Human Resources gives an important answer….  No previous study, to my knowledge, has demonstrated that the well-known gender gap in school grades begins so early and is almost entirely attributable to differences in behavior. The researchers found that teachers rated boys as less proficient even when the boys did just as well as the girls on tests of reading, math and science. (The teachers did not know the test scores in advance.) If the teachers had not accounted for classroom behavior, the boys’ grades, like the girls’, would have matched their test scores.

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NFL Players Comment on Children Playing Football

The hubster and I are still deciding if our 5y.o. should play football. (He really wants to!)

First, I posted reasons why your son should/should not play football. Then I attended the NFL Health and Safety Event and learned of Heads Up Football which is teaching new techniques designed to decrease concussions and make the game safer. Then, the President announced that if he had a son – he’d be leary about him playing football (he probably didn’t know about Heads Up Football). And now, NFL players are giving their two cents – on both sides of the fence.  See what they have to say ….

  • “Football’s a great game.  It’s such a great game because it teachesBaltimore Ravens center Matt Birk tosses a foo... you about life and lessons and there’s so much to be gained by participating in football. .. just to continue to have this conversation and continue to talk about it and just do whatever we can to make it safer  whether it be through rule change or research.”-MATT BIRK, Baltimore Ravens center Continue reading

Book Review: School Isn’t Fair

School Isn’t Fair by Patricia Baehr and illustrated by R.W. Alley is about four-year-old Edward describing all the ways he’s a victim of unfairness during his school day. I have a fondness for this book because…

– Edward’s ‘voice’ is so authentic. He sounds like a typical four-year-old. My 3 and 5 year-olds call each other silly names and whine about something not being fair – just like Edward.

– The conflicts are real. Edward is bullied. He doesn’t get his way in class. He can’t run as fast as his classmates. He can’t see the pictures during story time. And he acts out because he doesn’t know how to express his anger.

– The illustrations are nice. It always helps to have decent illustrations to convey a story.

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7 Reasons Your Son Should(not) Play Football

As a result of this post, I will be attending an NFL Health and Safety Event next week. If you have certain concerns, questions you’d like answered, please comment! I can’t wait to share what I learn!

I am so torn on whether or not my son should play football! (Believe it or not, his dad is too!)  Here are some reasons why he should(not) play …

  1.  NFL coaches wouldn’t even let their sons play. “I was able to ask two NFL head coaches if they would let their sons play football. Both said no. They cited the speed of the game and the elevation of serious injuries…”  via Should My Kid Play Football? A Sports Reporter and Mom Weighs In
  2. But it’s a ‘passage to manhood’ thing. “There are .. players who are trying to prove something to themselves. They are trying to prove they are not afraid… ” via Why You Should Let Your Son Play Football
  3. It’s too dangerous, barbaric, and the head traumas are harmful.    Is Football Too Dangerous
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Needed: More Attention to Boys’ Development

I totally appreciate and agree with this article as we’re dealing with some similar issues now. I recommend reading it.

NY Times: By Perri Klass M.D. boys development

When you learn how to examine the female reproductive system in medical school, you generally work with a professional surrogate patient, and there is often a humiliating moment when you try to palpate the ovaries only to be told, in no uncertain terms, that you are way off-target. At such a moment, the male reproductive system seems quite simple and accessible.

Yet simple it is not. Recent research suggests that we should be paying closer attention to male development, not just to help boys understand and care for a particularly sensitive and vulnerable part of their anatomy — but also to help answer larger questions about what is happening to boys and their growth.
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Angry Black Mom: Is It Just Me?

I love my blogosphere of moms – we are of all opinions, nationalities and backgrounds! We connect, relate, and uplift each other on our journeys and experiences through motherhood. It’s my online utopia.

But in reality right now, I’m hurt and I’m angry.

Trayvon Martin Protest - Sanford

Trayvon Martin Protest – Sanford (Photo credit: werthmedia)

For the second time this year, two white men deemed it their liberty to shoot and kill young black boys in “self- defense” in the same state I take my two Black boys to visit their grandparents. Two young boys who were unarmed and almost half the age of their killers somehow instilled fear in these armed White men and were thus gunned down.

I’m sure you remember Trayvon Martin, who was armed with only a bag of Skittles and a tea and yet was gunned down by George Zimmerman. And then, a couple of weeks ago, it was Jordan Davis playing his music too loud in a convenience store parking lot that attracted Michael Dunn who shot his hand-gun 8-9 times into Jordan’s SUV. 

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